Diamond in the Rough

This week, as I was pondering some ways to transform my daily “to do” list into one containing fun and adventure, ala my last blog post, I had an ephipany!

Many things in life have come fairly easily to me – good grades in school, learning to play the piano, learning to cook, gaining weight . . . but I digress. Yes, many things took little effort, while other things took more effort, like passing the CPA exam. I know, you’re totally shocked that I didn’t pass that baby in one try, aren’t you?

But for the past several years, nearly 6 to be exact, life has not even been close to easy. That’s really an understatement as I have experienced some major life stressors. And I have found myself, at times, nearly paralyzed emotionally as a result.

During a recent conversation with my new accountability partner, Susan Davis,  the question came up “what would your goal be like if it were ideal . . .?” What popped out was my belief that once I achieved my goal my life would be EASIER.  I probably mentioned (whined) that I was pretty tired of struggling and just wanted my life to be back on an even keel.

As I was reflecting on that conversation, God reminded me of a commitment that I had made to him more than six years ago. That’s right, the beginning of what I’ve come to refer to as the “difficult years” coincide with my commitment. You see, I had committed to God that I wanted to be everything He wanted me to be. No matter the cost. Now, I had a definite view in my mind of how I would get there and the beautiful, peaceful, perfect life I would have. God’s plan seems to be different. And quite frankly, I have expended a lot of energy being angry, and chafing against this plan.

Here’s the epiphany, “Adversity is the diamond dust with which heaven polishes its jewels.” The author of this quote is unknown. Obviously, I’m a diamond in the rough and need some polishing. I’ve always been a person who despises mediocrity. Easy equals mediocrity. You can call it taking the path of least resistance or something else, but all of those paths ultimately lead to one destination – mediocrity. Frank Clark said, “If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.”

Speaking of leading somewhere, here’s where I’m going with all of this. Yes, I’m finally landing.  Since I want to be everything I’m meant to be, then I must embrace the adversity, see it as God caring enough about me to smooth and polish out my rough spots so that I can shine. And that thought of shining . . . being all that I was put here to be . . . really fuels my passion.

How about you? Are you experiencing some obstacles? Are you tired and feeling defeated or have you learned this secret? I would love for you to share with me your thoughts and experiences so that we can all learn and be inspired.

I want to end this with one more quote; this time from Washington Irving, The Sketch Book, 1820: There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles us, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.

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41 Responses to “Diamond in the Rough”

  1. Deborah, I also seem to seek challenges and tend not to take the easiest path – in love, in relationships and in business.
    I do believe that each of us has a purpose, a destiny, and we do not have full control. We have to allow our life to unfold, sometimes with seemingly unfair adversity, but another saying is: What doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.

    • debstevens says:

      I agree with you, Dr. Erica, that we do not have full control. We can only control our actions and reactions. I used to use a play on words when my children would complain about a situation not being fair, and tell them that “fare” was something you paid to ride the bus. I still believe that is true. We should not expect life to be fair.

  2. Tim Somers says:

    Deborah, this is a very timely post for me personally – after 21 years in business the last few have been challenging – guess I was spoiled for years having things (business) just fall into place – I realize now more than every you have to step it up and work hard all the time to be successful.

    • debstevens says:

      Hi Tim,

      Thanks so much for sharing. I believe those challenges are really growth opportunities for you, and you have apparently used them just for that.

  3. Hello Deborah

    I really enjoyed the post.

    I have always viewed obstacles as challenges and learning experiences.

    Sure, we all have our down moments but it is those obstacles that make life interesting.

    • debstevens says:

      I couldn’t agree more, Peter. If we didn’t have the down moments how would we know the great moments are great?

  4. Very well said in your beautiful way Deb.

    I have seen life come and go and experienced ups and downs and have similar experiences of coming to an understanding that the Lord has different purposes than I realize for my life.

    I do believe that He is “polishing” all of His children to bring us into a place of “sparkling” and “shining” brighter and brighter. This really only comes through adversity and so I have come to appreciate the “hard” things in life as I know that they bring me to a much better place on the other side. And…God uses these things in the most beautiful manner possible.

    Great stuff!

  5. Great honest post Debbie. When I look back on the challenges (including bankruptcy) I’ve had to get to where I am I am very grateful for them because I can now relate to anyone going through similar situations and I’ve been able to assist so many people because of it. A statement I used during those times and still do “This too shall soon pass.”

    Hope this helps,

    Michael

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